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How To Know What You Want

Before you can change anything in your life, you need to be clear about exactly what you are aiming for.

So many people try to improve their lives, especially at the start of a new year. But the problem is, very few people actually know what they are aiming for and more importantly … why!

If you don’t have a clear understanding of how and why you want your life to change, then you will have no clear idea of what you are aiming for, and you won’t know when you have succeeded.

I want to share with you one of the most effective exercises I know for beginning to get clarity on what you want from your life.

It starts with imagining what your ideal life actually looks like.

This is not some airy-fairy New Age B.S.  Seriously, you first step is to ‘live’ in your ideal life and see what it is like.  Notice I am using the present tense here.

I didn’t say “imagine what your ideal life WILL BE like”.  I want you to discover what it is like as you are going to mentally inhabit it for a while.

The best way to approach this is to spend some time over the next week finding moments of stillness and quiet where you can ‘day dream’ about what your ideal life is like.  Shut your eyes if you can and immerse yourself totally in every detail.

Some key questions …

What are you doing?

What does it feel like being you?

How are you choosing to spend your time?

Where are you and who are you with?

What gives your life meaning and purpose?

What are you striving towards?

These questions are starting points for this exercise.  You need to really dig down deep into the detail of where you are living, what the house is like, what you drive etc.  This will help you paint a powerful mental picture as well as begin to decide exactly what is most important to you.

To get the most out of this you need to try to use all your senses – what do you see, hear, touch, smell and taste.  Try to experience the emotions that you feel in your ideal world too, so that the whole mental picture really comes alive for you.

Why am I doing this?

Aside from being a great day dream ‘holiday’, there is a really powerful and practical reason for doing this.  This is not about some ‘Secret’ trick of manifesting your ideal world into reality.

What you are actually doing is creating a powerful mental image and associated emotional response to your long term vision for life.  You are taking the very first steps towards getting clear about what you want and why.  The images you see and the actions you do are giving you clues to what you want, and the emotions and meanings you attach to them will help you to find the why.

Start creating your own ideal future today.  It all begins in a moment of tranquil reflection.

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